Positive Every Day

Calvi Marina

For two years my wife and I lived on a sailboat in the Mediterranean while we home schooled our three children. That adventure gave us a legacy that our family continues to draw from. When we are “stuck” on an issue we can change the tone of the discussion by focusing on the positive, such as when we stayed in the marina in Calvi, Corsica, France, exploring the fabulous village and enjoyed views like the one above.

I was thinking of this today when I read Jesse Lyn Stoner’s blog post 7 Ways to ReWire Your Brain and Become a Better Leader. One of the points that Jesse makes is “Savor your positive experiences”. The post goes on to discuss how we are hard wired to focus on the negative and how by focusing on the positive we can keep our attention on the issues at hand.

I’ve written before about Start with the Wins and the backing science behind positive phycology in Shawn Achor’s The Happiness Advantage. Of course, knowing and doing are two different things. On August 1st it will be a year since I started as VP Marketing at Webtech Wireless. In that year, I’ve worked hard to practice positive principles. While I make sure to start our weekly planning meetings with our wins, I’ve noticed that in daily huddles I often jump into challenges, before asking my team for their wins. Every time that I start with the wins, the challenges get resized and the energy in the discussion changes.

Thanks to Jesse’s post for reminding me to find that positive experience, for me and for each of my team members, each and every day.

Be Careful of the Goal

In the last couple of weeks, several people have died trying to climb Everest, the tallest mountain in the world. In at least some cases, Sherpas were telling the people to get down off the mountain, but they went ahead to the summit and died on the way down.

Last fall, we took on a Personal Challenge trekking to Annapurna Base Camp in the Himalayan Mountains to the west of Everest. While our trek was only to 4,000 m (Everest is 8,000 m) it gave us a small taste of altitude sickness and the challenges of trekking day after day. While most people think Everest is the most dangerous of the 8,000 m peaks to climb, statistically it is not. A higher percentage of climbers have died trying to climb Annapurna.

In his book, The Will to Climb, Ed Viesturs recounts not only his three attempts to summit Annapurna, but numerous other attempts over the years. Ed is the only American climber to summit all 8,000 m mountains in the world. His advice is simple — the goal is not to climb mountains and summit their peaks. The goal is to get to the top and to get back down safely. When you are at the peak you are only half way there.

The people who died on Everest recently lost sight of Ed’s advice. Some were so committed to getting to the peak of Everest they pushed themselves too far to make it back down safely. As a goal driven person, these events and our experience in the Annapurna Sanctuary remind me that I need to choose goals where we can make it all the way to the end.

Should I or Shouldn’t I?

The EdgeI’ve written before about how I Keep My Edge by challenging myself on the ski hill. I was recently skiing when I passed this sign marking the edge of the ski area.

In business, as in life, we all face boundaries. Those edges where the rules say we need to stay inside. Whether it is to stay within the lines when coloring or to cross the street only when the light is green.

Seeing the ski area boundary made me think of several challenges about staying within the rules:

Are you sure about the rules?  I’ve noticed that in other countries, lights being red or green are merely suggestions to pedestrians as to whether to cross the road or not. Are you clear on where your organization’s rules are? Or are your organizational rules fuzzy at the best of times and completely obscure the rest of the time?

Is everyone else inside the line? In some organizations, the “rule” is to challenge the rule and cross over to the other side, although there may be a protocol about under what conditions you are to do so.

Do you know the consequences? It’s okay to ski outside ski area boundaries — if you are prepared to self rescue yourself if you get in trouble. Are you clear in your own mind about what the consequences are if you break the rules? Maybe the consequences are not what you think they are.

Can you create change without breaking the rules? By definition, change requires either breaking the rules or defining new ones that are different than the old ones and encouraging and pushing people to cross the old boundaries. If the old rules were fuzzy or missing, demonstrating the new rules and pushing right up to their edge can help lead others to change.

A ski run, a sign, and an edge. They combined to challenge me to think about where I cross the line and challenge the rules. Where do you challenge yours?

Aspiration

Aspiration

May I develop

Complete acceptance and openess

To all situations and emotions,

And to all people.

May I experience everything nakedly,

Completely without mental reservations or blockages

May I never withdraw from life

Or centralize onto myself.

May my heart be laid bare + open

To the fire of all that is.

Reginald A. Ray

Personal Challenges

Annapurna At Day Break

Annapurna At Day Break

I recently returned from a trip to Nepal where I realized a long term dream. I trekked with my wife Karalee and a group of friends through the Himalayan Mountains to the Annapurna Sanctuary where we got to get up before dawn to hike up to Annapurna Base Camp and view the early rising sun paint Annapurna, the tenth tallest mountain in the world, with light. While any fit person can do this trek, it created some personal challenges for me that are among the greatest I’ve ever overcome.

Here is what I learned from overcoming these challenges.

Have a Dream: This trip started because Karalee and I have a good friend who has led dozens of treks in Nepal. We had heard of the beauty and challenges of these treks and decided that we wanted to trek in the tallest mountains in the world.

One Step at a Time: A big goal can seem overwhelming. You can overcome this by focusing on the next step. If you can make one more step, you can get closer to your goal.

Lead from Within: I got sick, from drinking a cup of tea, and could not eat any food for two days. Dehydrated and low on energy, I had to trek to stay with our group. Rather than focus on the next step, I focused on the next ten, all that I could do without stopping. I amazed myself when after climbing over 1,000 steps, ten at a time, I arrived in camp only a half hour after the rest of our fit group.

Set an Example: I have shared these personal challenges from trekking in Annapurna with employees, colleagues, and friends. It is important that they see that when I ask them to overcome a challenge that they know that I am both willing and capable of overcoming challenges myself. This adventure challenged me to find my boundaries and go past them.

How do you challenge yourself to the next level?

Orchestrate

 

Satin Doll

A colleague and I were discussing our career paths the other day. Both of us are musicians. He is a professional and I am a serious amateur. We were talking about the power of music to coordinate individuals and teams. 

Time: Music is broken into a time signature and bars. Each bar has a given number of beats. The tempo sets the overall time for how fast the beats go. When we coordinate people, our meeting, deliverables, and other rhythms set the beat. As leaders we set the tempo for how fast we want the organization to go.

Individuals: Each line in sheet music represents a different instrument or voice. These individual lines are combined to create the overall sound that we hear. In organizations, we need to provide clarity to individuals as to what is expected of them. It is rare to provide the level of clarity that is provided by each line and note of music.

Movement: Each line of music can be going in different directions, each note can have different lengths, and the emphasis we put on individual notes can vary moment by moment. This level of precision is rarely seen in organizations, yet is often needed to deliver on complex projects.

Orchestration: When you listen to the individual parts of a score of a large group or orchestra, each can sound completely different than the finished score. A beautifully written piece of music comes together as each individual part is combined to form something greater than the sum of each part. When we get teams to perform at that level, we achieve the same thing for our organizations.

Higher performing teams know how to orchestrate themselves to bring out the best in each individual, while insuring that the complete picture is delivered in a beautifully coordinated way for customers. How do you orchestrate?

Creative People

Crayola Crayons

A recent status update from my friend Becky Robinson from Weaving Influence reminded me of the simplicity of inspiring children to be creative:

“My girls haven’t colored much this summer. Yesterday, I bought a new box of crayons. They’ve been coloring nonstop. If I had known that was all it would take, I would have bought them a new box of crayons sooner.”

Becky’s posting made me think of my children, coloring, exploring, and drawing. I could even smell the box of crayons. And what wonderful creations my children created when we gave them space, time, and tools. When dealing with adults and organizations, we seem to lose sight of these simple ideas.

Space: Do we give people enough space to color, explore, and create. Are their enough communal tables? Enough white boards? Enough screens to connect laptops to? Enough chances to collaborate together?

Time: Is everyone’s schedule so tightly booked with meetings and interactions that they never have the time to think through issues, innovate, and be creative?

Tools: Are we stingy with the tools we give people thinking that it is more important to save money that to build environments that create innovation and new ideas? Many tools cost little more than crayons and paper.

How can you give the space, time, and tools to your people today to inspire them?

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A Personal Thank You

Kevin Lawrence

Four years ago today on my fiftieth birthday I started a new relationship. After some time of personal frustration with where I was in life, I hired Kevin Lawrence as my personal and professional coach. We spent the entire day together four years ago in my first ever coaching session.

We all have people who enter our lives and have an impact. Sometimes small and sometimes big. All too often, we never acknowledge those people who help us to change course, grow, and learn helping us to move through personal and professional growth.

With Kevin’s help, I have been able to see my life from a fresh perspective. This perspective has allowed me to reexamine my values, dig deep into what is important to me, and to make fundamental changes. Through it all Kevin has been there helping me grow as a person.

On a professional basis, Kevin continues to both inspire and challenge me. Many of the postings in this blog have come about from problem solving and discussions that we have had together. If I’m feeling stuck and I don’t have a chance to talk with Kevin, I am inspired by reading his eBook Expel the Elephants.

On this, my fifty fourth birthday, all I can say is “Thanks Kevin. You have had a big impact on me.”

Challenges

Hiking the BCMC Trail

The photograph is my son Allen climbing the BCMC trail on the mountains of North Vancouver, BC. Allen is goofing around in this picture and it wasn’t long ago that either climbing the steep trail or lifting the log he is holding were insurmountable challenges for Allen. My children are an inspiration to me as I watch them be challenged and then rise above the challenge to achieve personal growth.

As a parent, it is often easy to see your children’s challenges. And to know how to help them overcome the current challenge. What about when you have your own? Then it is not so easy.

I have been going through my own personal challenges lately. New professional challenges have kept me up at night. There has been anxiety over performance fears. Building a project plan has seemed more like an exercise in frustration then positive momentum.

Days go by where I feel like I am knee deep in mud. Every step takes enormous effort as I lift my leg out of the mud, take one step forward, only to sink up to my knees in the mud once again. When I look around for a helping hand, there is no one in sight, so I have to summon the energy to lift my other leg out of the mud and take one tiny step forward.

I know from past experience that over time this will pass. Where everything seems foggy and out of focus right now, it will eventually come into focus and the fog will lift. It is pushing myself through it all that is the challenge.

Thankfully, I have a lot of supportive people that surround me. A lot of tools that my life experience has given me. And I have my children’s example to inspire me.

Keep Connecting

David J. Greer in Provence, France

I’ve written before how Connecting People is a way I try and help to raise the level of discussion and make a difference in the world. I have had the opportunity to continue connecting with many new thought leaders this year, using Twitter as my connection platform. Here are a few more people whose writing challenges me to think differently.

Dan Rockwell

Dan Rockwell calls himself the Leadership Freak. His Leadership Freak blog is captioned “Helping Leaders Reach Higher in 300 words or less”. Dan’s writing is tight, directed, and to the point. Each blog post causes me to challenge myself to find a better way to work with people and help lead them.

S. Chris Edmonds

Part of the Ken Blanchard Companies, S. Chris Edmonds is focused on the culture change process. His Driving Results Through Cool Culture blog weaves stories of real world events and examples into driving organizational change and defining highly functional organizational cultures.

Jane Perdue

Self styled as the “HR Goddess”, Jane Perdue’s Get Your Leadership Big On! is subtitled “Use your head to manage and your heart to lead!”. Jane takes an HR perspective to leadership, including leadership self-assessment, coaching, and credibility. Every Friday she publishes her favorite blog posts from the week.

All of these writers are amazing for the content they produce, the frequency that they publish, and their willingness to share their experience with the world. Let me know who you follow and how they inspire you to reach for the next level.

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